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Do Ex-Gays Exist?

Starting in 2011 leaders of ex-gay ministries around the world admitted no Christian changed orientation to heterosexual.
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We all know people who are bisexual and have had sex with both sexes. That is perfectly valid and bisexuality is not just a way of avoiding labels. It is a genuine sexual orientation, albeit often misunderstood.

But has anyone been able to choose to go from homosexual to heterosexual by choice, prayer or any other means?

Well, there used to be many such claims, but today we are down to those who have a financial stake in the claim (making money for being ‘ex-gay’ or working for a ministry which would fire them if they admitted they were not actually heterosexual).

Of course, if you want to believe a few dozen anonymous Youtube videos, ex-gays still exist, but by that measure, Bigfoot exists, aliens are flying overhead all the time and you had better get out your tin foil hat.

Every medical association has explained for years that sexual orientation is not a choice.

While there is ongoing research into genetics and epigenetics, brain scans already show visible differences for certain areas of the brain for homosexuals versus heterosexuals. Fetal brain scans show those differences begin to form in utero. Google ‘gay brains are different.’

The World Psychiatric Association joined with every national medical association calling for an end to gay-curing ‘therapies.’

Electro-shock, lobotomies and aversion therapies, such as snapping a rubber band to give yourself an ‘ouchie’ every time you feel attracted to someone of the same sex, have pretty much all gone by the boards (in the Western world, at least).

Reparative gay conversion therapy, which is not a medical therapy and not recognized by any medical association as such, has been proven in court to be consumer fraud (see JONAH case in which every medical expert told the court such ‘therapy’ cured nobody but harmed many). 

Reparative gay conversion therapy is illegal in a growing number of cities and states for minors.

There have been too many instances of these so-called therapists sexually abusing their young clients, but no instances of anyone being cured (after all, sexual orientation is not an illness or disorder).

The FTC is looking into the few remaining gay-curing groups such as Journey into Manhood, which claims to heal homosexuals in a weekend romp in country cabins by providing the men with "magic bean seeds" (I kid you not).

Even that odd little group brings in a quarter million dollars a year, per their own filings with the federal government so you can see why the practice persists.

But what about the religious idea that coming to Jesus and repenting will make a gay person straight?

Starting in 2011 leaders of ex-gay ministries around the world admitted no Christian changed orientation to heterosexual.

Since then every major, decades-old ex-gay ministry from the US to Australia closed their doors forever after 40 years of change promises and claims that turned out to be misguided. (Google “Exodus international closes" and  "Exodus admits gays can’t change")

Divorce rates for so-called mixed-orientation marriages are high; it is a terrible idea to advise a straight person to wed a gay one. See the Straight Spouse Network to understand the damage that happens to the person often ignored in the debate: the straight spouse.

In spite of anti-LGBT groups and their talking points, It is better for gays to wed other gays because closeted gays are more likely to have unsafe sex and divorce rates are lower for same-sex couples than they are for heterosexual couples...

An interesting and ironic aside is that evangelicals, the most vocal group against same-sex couples getting married, have the highest divorce rates in society for any heterosexual group, per shocked evangelical researchers at Baylor Christian University in Texas (Google it).

Seems the ‘family values crowd’ needs to check themselves because they are wrecking themselves.

So, if you see a story of someone claiming to be ‘ex-gay’ just rest assured you are watching a wishful-thinking kind of claim from someone who has been convinced that heaven is only for heteros, so they ‘name it and claim it’ trying to ‘fake it til they make it.’

If you ever come across one of these rare-as-unicorns ‘ex-gays,’ ask the person directly if they are heterosexual, and watch the dissembling begin.

They will denounce gays and “THE” gay lifestyle, then go into such diversionary claims as “the opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality, but holiness.”

At that point you know you have encountered someone who is living proof “Denial isn’t just a river in Egypt.”