Halloween: Our American LGBTQ holiday

Today Halloween is an LGBTQ extravaganza that rivals -- if not out-showcases -- Pride festivals. 

In the words of the lesbian poet and scholar Judy Grahn, Halloween is "the great gay holiday."

And this weekend of lavish costumed theatricality will attract everyone, but especially lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) revelers.

Why ‘coming out’ means more than being gay in tech

We created ProofPilot to make it possible for anyone to create a study online, on any topic.

Diversity in tech is something that everyone agrees that there needs to be more of — more women, more minorities, more perspective.

Diversity helps create better products and stronger organizations that help solve problems for a group of people that might have been underserved.

Love and violence in black LGBTQ communities

Resources and services have to be made available to LGBTQ communities of color.

*the names are fictional and the couple described is a composite of numerous couples I counseled on inter-personal violence (IPV).

The Jills were the envy among us lesbian couples of African descent.

Where were the LGBT issues in the presidential debate?

Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton square-off in first presidential debate.

[Editor's note, several people have reached out to me and said the topics for last night's debate, chosen in advance, were "America's Direction," "Achieving Prosperity" and "Securing America" which still makes me wonder why LGBT issues weren't brought up in any of those categories.It would seem that one candidate would address the community just a little; at least in the "America's Directio

Homeless decreasing in Hillcrest, but city needs to increase aid

Hillcrest Business Association (HBA) has taken solid steps to address the symptoms of homelessness. 

In the last year, we’ve all seen significant changes in the number of homeless people throughout San Diego, including Hillcrest.  

Following up on complaints by our members, six weeks ago Hillcrest Business Association (HBA) engaged proactive security patrols through a private security company.  '

Did Hillcrest forget the 'B' in LGBTQ this week?

The Bisexual Pride flag is absent on the flagpole in Hillcrest during Bisexual Pride week.

Look up!

No, not at the enveloping rain clouds that smothered sunny San Diego at the beginning of the week. Look up at the towering LGBTQ Pride flag in Hillcrest.

I’ll tell you what you won’t see, you won’t see the pink, purple, and blue hues of a waving Bisexual Pride flag.

But why would that matter?

9 things to know if you love a guy with low self-esteem

Can having low-self-esteem be the killer in a relationship?

[Editor's Note: Paul Graves (pictured left) is a heterosexual male who suffered from low self-esteem, but feels his male perspective also holds true for gay men and same-sex couples.]

So you love a guy with low self-esteem...

Sucks to be you. I’m saying that as a dude who used to hate himself. Who still kind of does.

Local community leader Papa Tony retires

I've been a community leader for decades, and it's been an incredible journey.

EDITOR'S NOTE: This is a letter released today from FetishMen San Diego Papa Tony:

It has been a very, very good run, and…

Now that I'm almost sixty-one years old, I'm ready for my next phase.  

Tonight's Men's Discussion is the last event that I will be hosting for the foreseeable future.  

Maybe ever.  

I'm okay with that.

A nightmare scenario for couple who chose surrogacy

Jay Timmons (left) and Rick Olson hold their son, Jacob Timmons

Imagine you and your spouse cannot naturally conceive children, but you are willing and capable of being a good parent.  

As luck has it, you are approached by another couple who are close friends of yours who offer an embryo that they did not use but do not want to destroy.