Relationships with an alcoholic: what’s your part?

Jennine Estes, MFT | Fri, 03/19/2010 - 2:06pm | Login to bookmark or comment

Is your relationship straight up or on the rocks? Or is that the question the bartender asks your partner when they order a drink?

Traveling down any relationship path has speed bumps, quick turns, and rocky times. Each journey looks different depending on the personality types, addictions, coping mechanisms, etc. Yet your relationship has alcohol wedged in the middle.

Autistic children receive new leash on life from service dogs

Rebecca Chappell - SDNN | Sun, 03/14/2010 - 9:45am | Login to bookmark or comment

Wesley, a 12-year old boy with high-functioning autism, has a four-legged friend named Mully. The friendship is significant for Wesley; he was socially challenged prior to being paired with the yellow Labrador assistance dog. As is common among autistic children, Wesley couldn’t hold eye contact, maintain a conversation, engage in play or pick up on social cues.

Sex: Not Enough for Intimacy

Stephen Brewer, M.A. | Wed, 03/10/2010 - 11:49am | Login to bookmark or comment

There is little more exciting for a person who is single, than looking across the room and locking eyes with that special someone who strikes his or her fancy.

Feelings of excitement and giddiness overcome the person's mind, as fantasies of a future life with that special someone take form. Sometimes, fantasies of what the other person will be like in bed begin to take over. This distraction to sexual fantasies may pose a problem for a person who is interested in being in a long-term relationship.

Q Psych: Friendship and the Laws of Attraction

J.M. Evosevich, Ph.D. - BottomLine | Wed, 03/10/2010 - 11:46am | Login to bookmark or comment

Since the mid-’90s the number of people who say they have no one to talk to has doubled. The lack of social contacts and social support, despite our technological advances over the past few decades, is one of the downsides to the huge transformations that have taken place in our society.

Warning signs when you're dating someone who is just out of a long-term relationship

Jennine Estes, MFT | Thu, 03/04/2010 - 10:42am | Login to bookmark or comment

Dating is no simple journey… and dating someone who just got out of a long-term relationship can be a slippery slope. As you go through the dating process and you start to get attached, how do you know that the relationship isn’t a rebound or a future heart ache? There are no guarantees to prevent future pains, but there are some red flags and warning signs for danger that you can keep your eye on.

Here are a few warning signs to watch out for (when you are dating someone who recently got out of a long-term relationship):

-- They call you by the Ex’s name.

Commentary: Tiger Woods must follow statement with action

Lee "Hacksaw" Hamilton - SDNN | Sat, 02/20/2010 - 11:44am | Login to bookmark or comment

Fifteen minutes of fame can define a person. Fifteen minutes of human failure now defines Tiger Woods.

In a wide ranging statement to a global world of golf and the golfing media, a humbled Tiger Woods apologized to anyone and everyone, and said he would do better in his future life.

Four months after his SUV accident, the battle with his wife, and a failed attempt to control his privacy in the tabloid world we live in, Woods went down. His image shattered, his career on hold, he emerged humbled and honest.

Working through grief and loss

Stephen Brewer, M.A. | Wed, 02/17/2010 - 10:30am | Login to bookmark or comment

Relationships are an integral part of human existence. Whether a relationship involves a friend or family member, people around us make an impact on our lives in some way or another. Nobody who is reading this lives in a social vacuum.

When we lose someone who we had a relationship with, whether through a falling out or death, how is it that we experience their loss?

Differences with being in or out of the closet doesn’t have to hurt your relationship

Jennine Estes, MFT | Wed, 02/10/2010 - 8:34am | Login to bookmark or comment

In or out: What is your position? And does it impact your relationship?

“Coming out of the closet, or simply coming out, is a figure of speech for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people disclosing their sexual orientation and gender identity.” (Wikipedia.com). The degrees of being “out” with your sexuality can range from certain friends and family knowing, to specific colleagues at work being aware, to even your medical doctors knowing.

Gaydar in the age of the internet

Stephen Brewer, MA | Wed, 01/27/2010 - 11:45am | Login to bookmark or comment

Most cultures have traditions which facilitate the process of finding one's mate. Whether it is the Eastern tradition of arranged marriages, or the Western tradition of finding a loved one while pursuing higher education, each culture has influenced the way people find their partners. There are, however, newer traditions which are taking precedent over these older and more established traditions. The most recent and common one is the use of online dating websites.

Rebuilding trust after YOU had the affair: Steps to regain your partner’s trust

Jennine Estes, MFT | Wed, 01/20/2010 - 11:08am | Login to bookmark or comment

It started with a flirt, a simple flirt.

This harmless friendship crossed the line; flirtatious text messages, anticipation for the next contact, or simply a shoulder to cry on when things weren’t going right in your relationship. The friendship started off innocent, but after one too many drinks, you two ended up hooking up. This “one time mistake” or “long term affair” was hidden, pushed aside, or buried under lies because you knew you were wrong and didn’t want to lose your partner. Eventually- reality hit full speed and your partner found out anyway.

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