SAN DIEGO -- A new sexual assault survivor support group for women in the LGBT community will begin Tuesday, May 14, sponsored by the Center for Community Solutions (CCSSD).

CCSSD representatives say that several individuals have asked for a group that looks at the unique issues the LGBTQI community faces when being victims and survivors of sexual assault. The goal of the group is to offer a safe environment where participants can speak and heal from sharing their experiences together.

The idea of a happy and meaningful life has become unnecessarily complicated in some circles, says author and certified positive psychology coach Lynda Wallace, who left a high-powered executive career with Johnson & Johnson to pursue her real passion – helping individuals and groups achieve greater happiness and success.

"I’m really struggling with feeling lonely -- nighttime is the worst. I dread going to bed knowing that I will just lay there, feeling horrible and alone, and think for hours. During the day I am better because I have work and friends to keep me distracted. At night, though, I end up calling people that aren't good for me, hook up with the wrong people, or drink too much just to make myself feel better. I want to be at a place where I am OK with being alone. Where do I even start?" – Lonely in San Diego

Dear Lonely in San Diego,

Of all my columns, the most popular – by far – is on monogamy and open relationships. I also did workshops on this topic in San Diego and Los Angeles a few years ago, and sold out both cities. Why is this topic such a hot one? Let’s begin with a few questions.

Ask yourself:

• For me, what would be the purpose of an open relationship and of monogamy?

• What are the pros and cons of each?

• What does “emotional monogamy” mean to me?

• Could my partner and I remain emotionally committed to each other while having sex with other people?