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Civilities: How to prevent kids from learning to fear gay people

Dear Civilities: I guess it was bound to happen — and now it has. Our 9-year-old daughter, Mary (not her real name), has a new friend at school, and Mary invited her over for a play date. But this girl’s mom said she’s not allowed to come to our house because Mary has two mothers. This is the first time this has happened to us — I guess it’s kind of amazing it has taken this long — but Mary is upset and so is her friend, who would like to visit. How do we explain this to our daughter? Should we say something to her friend’s parents? — Name withheld, Queens (N.Y.)

A: I understand your feelings and predicament. Four years ago, one of my nieces, the daughter of two moms, told our family that she had been ostracized at a sleep-away camp because of her parents’ sexual orientation. She was 14 at the time and, naturally, she was devastated. Call me Uncle Grizzly Bear, but I was extremely angry and I hated that she had been subject to such dreck from these kids.

Read the full column on The Washington Post HERE.