They say that when it rains, it pours. Well with El Nino visiting Southern California this year, that statement has never been more true. Yeah the rain makes things complicated (no one in Southern California can drive in it) but one thing you can't deny is that the rains wash away all the dirt and grime. It got me to thinking... don't we all need to wash away the past and start with a clean slate?
We can't all be judged by our previous relationships, but over the holidays I found my budding relationship with Nick being questioned... not by me, but by a friend who's known me since I was in college.
"I'll believe it when I see it," were the words Dale used when I said that I think Nick might be the one.
It kind of hurt a little, but considering the last time I did the long distance thing, it didn't end too well (although my friend Brian will tell you it ended hilariously when the lovely Ophelia called me out on stage for mentioning my ex's name 6 times in a post breakup column). Despite the messy split, I have managed to clean things up and the ex and I are now friends on Facebook. Most importantly, I have learned a few things from it...
Okay, so it's not quite spring yet, but Nick has sprung into my life and I find him staying with me more and more often. Now when you've had a room to yourself for as long as I have, you forget how to share your space. You also forget that not everyone shares your fascination with Transformers and doesn't think that having a collection of action figures on shelves is fun in a quirky sort of way. So that is why when I started trying to clean things up this week, I decided to box up some (not all) of them.
To be honest it may also have had something to do with my friend Alex leaning across the table during brunch at The Tractor Room and saying to Nick, "Do you ever get nervous, you know when you're in bed with him at night and it feels like the robots are all watching you?"
My friend Hunter just got back from the Atlantis Caribbean cruise, he opted for it over the Mexican Rivera cruise because (as he puts it) it has a more "European" flair. We were enjoying Taco Tuesdays at Marix in West Hollywood and after a pitcher of Margaritas, he decided to regale me with stories about his high seas adventure. From the sound of things, his stateroom came equipped with a revolving door.
"I am all about out with the old and in with the new," Hunter declared. "And it's so much easier when you have housekeeping coming by everyday to clean the room and change the sheets!"
I think we've made it through the worst of the rains and what are we left with? Clean streets, blue skies, fresh air and in regards to relationships I do have a clean slate. A wise man once said that every relationship will fail until you find the right one. Well right now think I've found the right one and I have learned some things from my messy past. Whether it's a one night stand or the long haul, you have to make someone feel welcome in your life. That might mean clean sheets (okay, those should always be expected) or possibly clearing off shelves and making more closet space so that special someone feels at home.
Travis D. Bone is a Los Angeles based writer and a graduate of the University of California at San Diego. After spending 13 years in San Diego where his journalism efforts earned him a San Diego Press Club award he took his chances on moving to Los Angeles to become a television writer. Now he’s working in finance for a studio, so that didn’t turn out quite the way he expected. On the upside he’s still writing, still single and still living it up splitting time between Los Angeles and San Diego. In short he’s got a lot of stories to tell.