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Life With Benny

Life With Benny 4.0: I'm turning 40 this year!

In late 2009 and early 2010 as I was a approaching 30 years old, I was freaking out! They used to say something like “35 was basically dead in gay years” because of the over-emphasis our gay men’s community can place on youth. I thought 30 was “old,” I thought I should’ve been further along in certain areas of my life, and I just placed way too much emphasis on that number.

Life with Benny: Signs of the times

Benny shares some of his favorite photos of handmade signs seen at Monday's San Diego rally for marriage equality.

Life with Benny: The kids are all right

SDGLN Staff Writer Benny Cartwright shares about a simple gesture some local elementary school kids made to combat bullying on their campus.

Life with Benny: My personal crusade through the fear and stigma of HIV

Even though Benny has been an gay activist for his whole adult life, HIV/AIDS was a constant cloud floating around his head and his heart until just a few years ago, in large part due to the teachings of his youth. He now stands strong in the fight for greater awareness and against the social stigmas that stifled him for years.

A moment of thanks

Today I turned 30 years old and this then lead me to start thinking about people in my life that I have looked up to and viewed as role models. While there are many people that have shaped who I am today, I really started to think about the gay men that have been central parts of my growth.



Creating change in the world begins at my front door

We all know that San Diego’s gay community is fairly small, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Unfortunately, it sometimes seems like we are living in a high school world with all of the labels, groups and cliques that can be formed.

Gay and the "big picture"

Those who throw around the “gay doesn’t define who I am argument” may argue back that they are just as proud of being gay as I am and just don’t need LGBT media and organizations in their lives.

Countdown to 30: All systems are now GO

When I was 19, I one of my biggest “dreams” was to skip over age 20 so I could reach the seemingly magical age of 21. Time seemed to pass at turtle-like speed as I awaited that “milestone” (now I can’t seem to slow down the hands of time).

My wake-up call on friendships

My most cherished friends are the people with whom I share my deepest thoughts, feelings and secrets. With these friends, I can call them day or night, as many times as I want, to laugh, cry, or even just talk about random nothingness; and they are a huge part of who I am as a person.

Hate is alive - even where we least expect it

With Palm Springs being home to such a large gay community, I did not expect to be repeatedly called a “faggot” by a car full of tough-looking boys as I innocently walked back to my car.